Do they ever listen?
I mean really listen?
I am talking about my wonderful, adult, grown up children.
Last year I sent this open letter to them about Christmas presents and I thought all was well and good.
For last year.
BUT, I have been hearing a few murmurings this year in regards to Christmas present for Mom.
Please forgive me, but I need to remind them…or perhaps it is their love that keeps them asking me that yearly question.
Perhaps it is the way I raised them.
And if that is the case!
However, lets review this situation again.
Today, I want to talk about Christmas in the Kitchen and …..yep, my inner thoughts on Christmas Presents from my children and grandchildren.
Let’s start at the beginning.
I have loved to decorate for Christmas and all Holidays since I first had little ones running underfoot. And I love to decorate every room in my home. My children come to expect it as that is what they grew up with. I am no expert on any of it….I just do what I like.
For years I had a white flocked tree all decorated with glittery blue ornaments and twinkling lights. I remember two of my sons (on two separate occasions and in different cities) bringing spouses and future spouses to the house and saying something like;
“Now THIS is what a Christmas Tree is supposed to look like!”
Of course I immediately explained that people like different looks and an all red tree or a multi colored tree was just as pretty as an all blue tree.
I am chuckling as I remember those events.
Which leads me to talk about presents.
These days most of us adults have everything material that we want. And our children and grandchildren have bedrooms that look like a Toys R Us showroom.
I know there are little needy children who are wanting special presents, which is why the Captain and I buy presents for mystery families, Seniors and children of our fair city and take them to our church, The Salvation Army and other gift givers. Those are special cases.
However, today I want to talk to my family… my children and grandchildren.
Every year I hear this question.
“Mom, What do you want for Christmas?
My reply is always the same….
“I don’t need anything!”
But that is not quite the truth….there is something I really want…and as the years go by, I find I am wanting and needing it more and more.
So this post is going to be directed to my children, perhaps you my dear readers can relate with your own children.
To my beautiful and wonderful children and grandchildren:
You ask me what I want for Christmas, let me begin by telling you what I don’t want.
I don’t want a life, like the lyrics of the song “Cat’s In The Cradle”!…where the Father is too busy for his child and then the child as an adult is too busy for the Father.
It is so simple, you see, I want you….and my grandchildren to keep coming around.
I want us to talk together about things that matter to you and things that are happening in your life. Just talk to me.
I want to hear your voice. I want you to ask me questions and I want to give my advice and my opinions. Tell me your problems or what is concerning you at the moment, I want you to ask for my help whether you take the advice or not. You will at least hear what I have to say.
I want to know about your work. Are you happy in what you are doing? Do you have any worries? Tell me about your spouses, your kids and their kids. Tell me about your dogs and cats and birds and other critters. I just want to hear your voice and feel a part of your lives.
Rant and rave about life or be upbeat about all your Blessings. Just talk to me and spend time with me, physically preferred …but phone calls are good too! Believe me I know how difficult it is to find time for phone calls and face times, I’ve been there too. You all lead such busy lives.
I want you to laugh with me or laugh at me. I really don’t care. Over the years you have made me laugh over something silly I have done or something someone else has done. I want to hear your laughter, like when you were a child. One of you (and you know who you are) laughs at the drop of a hat, literally…and your laughter warms my heart. Another of you (and you know who you are) relates funny stories and I laugh so hard that my jaws ache when I get off the phone. And another of you (and you know who you are) never ends a phone call or text without saying “I love you” and worries about me on the days when I am alone! (I must not forget a grand child who texts me smiles and happy faces daily and two who texts me sports data).
It pleases me to see you make yourself at home even though this home is in Florida and not the home you grew up in. Open the fridge and search for something to eat or for that Dr. Pepper. I don’t care how long the fridge door is held open. I’m just glad you are here when you visit and I am sad when you go.
I am so proud of the adults you have become. If I had buttons on my clothes, they would pop! I would like to think I had a part in the person you each have become.
So when you ask, “Mom, What do you want for Christmas?” ….
I want you.
I have everything I need. I don’t “NEED” you to spend your hard earned money on something frivolous for me….unless of course you want to give me a gift card for a movie or dinner out. 🙂 just jokin’…needed to say something light to stop the tears.
Seriously, You are the gift that keeps on giving every time you call me or visit me. I want all my children and grand children happy and healthy which I am sure each of you understand more now as you have children of your own.
I am truly Blessed, so please my sweet ones…just keep doing what you have been doing all through the year.
That is the most wonderful Christmas present any Mom and Dad can ask for.
Instead of the negatives in the song “Cat’s In The Cradle”, I will suggest the song “All I Want For Christmas Is You!”.
So now that we have that all straightened out.
I just want to say…..I love you!
And I love each of my dear readers.
You are amazing!