Is it just me…or have you also noticed the difference in the way men and women view friendships?
I don’t know what strange pheromone or psyche …causes the different reactions between men’s friendships and women’s friendships…. and I know I certainly can’t solve these mysteries in one post, but I would like to bring a few things to the table.
My husband and I are both “people” persons.
I talk to everyone, if you know what I mean….but mostly it is like: how are you? What have you been doing? How have you been feeling?…Nothing earth shattering or too, too personal unless it is a dear, dear friend.
I want to be friendly, but I take longer to develop the trust necessary to reveal certain intimacies even with-in my close circle of friends.
On the other hand, in general, men may be a bit reluctant to reveal …say a serious medical condition and yet….
Yet,… they can exchange the intimacies of their life to a stranger in a busy airport….which can be overheard by anyone within 10 feet.
Truth is, that the Captain lives perilously, day to day in his line of work.
And there is no doubt that his “inner workings” is such;…. that if any crew member or passenger were in immediate danger…he would do the “manly thing” and rescue or alleviate said situation.
And there may or may not be a pat on the back or the developing of a friendship over the day to day happenings.
This is his job.
It encompasses lots and lots of people.
Having said that, the Captain has a handful of good friends that he keeps in contact with.
Some, he may not speak to for months, sometimes years and yet, when he picks up the cell phone to call them…or they call him….one would think he had talked to that person just yesterday as they pick up the conversation and go forward. There doesn’t seem to be a fill-in-the-dots as they talk about the here and now.
Whereas with women, me in particular…I can pick up where we left off, but there is that void in between that needs to be filled in and talked about. I feel the need to tell the friend of all that has been happening, whether it be a general synopsis or a more detailed explanation.
How different men and women are with their friendships!
Friends are special.
Good friends even more so, especially those who live far away.
And you know who you are!!! 🙂
I still send out Christmas cards and here is one of the reasons why.
I love to receive the personal messages written inside and I love to send personal messages to my friends.
There are so many ways to keep in touch with friends these days.
I love to write long letters by hand as it is an almost forgotten medium. I especially love receiving them in the mail.
In today’s modern world, there are texts, emails, and videos, etc.
In fact, I received a video last evening from my grand daughter…. of my great grandson, who is three…and named after my late husband. He was singing Beatles songs as he played with his little cars. He not only had the words correct, he had the melodies down pat.
I laughed and cried and it made the many miles between us, somehow seem closer.
It was so special.
Friends are special and if they are a true friend, they will tell you the truth when needed.
They will laugh and cry with you.
They will discuss important issues or silly, frivolous chit chat.
Friends will sit with you for as long as it takes, whether happy or sad.
Embrace your friends.
We are all different, men and women, in how we develop and expand our friendships.
I hope you are having a wonderful week in your neck of the woods and that there are friends in your life.
Oh, the wellies in the picture are filled with spring flowers, rather than my feet as there have been no April Showers as of yet.
But I love the butterflies on the pale blue rain boots….and I paired a cluster of dried blue heather alongside.
I am a people watcher too but i surprised a social friend when i described my self as “not sociable”… basically I’ve arrived at that point where Fleeting friendships can be enjoyed and shared but true friends are precious. However I’m not ready to gossip/chatter to everyone. Does this make me anti social?😂
Some friendships are a little like the seasons… and include periods of hibernation…🤣
I now expect all letters to contain bills – how times have changed eh! However I love the modern use of Skype, FaceTime or similar as it keeps me close to the little ones over the distance. Do you use it to chat with your Captain whilst he’s away?
Anyway my friend, hugs from across the pond x
Right on Ross…There are degrees of friendship, I agree. As you can attest to….there are those we trust implicitly with our innermost thoughts and ideas and those for a more casual approach.
As I said, I still enjoy the written word but these days that is rare.
Tammy in ABQ says
Hi Kari, what a sweet post! My best friend and I met in 1979 when my family moved to New Mexico. We were 11 and 13 then….we’re 50 and 52 now, live two blocks apart, and have a grand time when we get together! Friends are so precious…..
You are so right Tammy…how wonderful that you two live so close together and your friendship has endured all these years. Your friendship is a treasure indeed. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs!