The Difference Between (Most) Women And (Most) Men….
“Honey, wasn’t that your turn?” I ask sweetly.
“No, I wanted to go this way because I wanted to see that new 7-11 they are building further up the street.” he mutters softly under his breath.
Lips pressed tightly together, looking at my watch, knowing that the time does not allow for a sight-seeing tour…
…..and thinking about the potato salad and deviled eggs that just might be developing salmonella, toxoplasma, listeria or any of a number of food-borne diseases, I sigh just a bit too loudly.
Of course the potato salad and deviled eggs went straight from the fridge and were now resting in the pop cooler full of ice…the Captain had seen to that earlier.
……according to Amy Goodson, RD, a dietitian at Ben Hogan Sports Medicine in Fort Worth, Texas:
“The rule of thumb is that no food should be left out for four total hours. This refers to not just four hours at a time, but four accumulated hours.”
I sighed again as we took yet another detour before our scheduled stop and potluck destination.
But, my dear readers, I am not here to talk about food-borne illnesses or potato salad or deviled eggs.
Today I want to talk about communication.
Specifically, communication between most women and most men.
And just for grins and giggles, I am using a few pics of the cartoon, The Lockhorns...just because I think they are funny/.
So Why is communication relevant?
Because nothing separates men from women more that communication.
Don’t you agree?
In case, you are saying to yourself, I am not sure I believe that….take a look at yourself the next time you get lost (I call it seeking an adventure)…
…..IF, you stop at the first gas station or you see a policeman and you ask for directions….most likely YOU are a woman.
However, if you are driving at night, muttering at every intersection as you search for street signs…re-assuring passenger(s), you are not lost, you know exactly where you are….
…..most likely YOU are a man.
Through the ages, we women have tried to come up with the reasoning of why the male ego is threatened for seeking help, and the invention of the GPS has helped some…but I find that my man shuts off the GPS saying…
…….”that thing doesn’t know this area, they programed that before the highway went in”, or some such explanation.
Now, anyone who knows me, knows I love this man. He is my friend, my confidant…my rock. He is also a pilot and very, very smart. He has many degrees they hang all over the wall in his office, limiting my wall decor and design.
In other words he uses the left side of his brain, whereas he might say I use the right side of my brain.
In laymen(s) language, I use common sense while he uses the scientific, mathematical, physics theory to relativity or some such thing for EVERYTHING!!!
I mean, my friends, this is why I don’t like to take him grocery shopping with me….I REALLY don’t care to know the cost per ounce of the green beans.
When we decide to hang a picture on the wall, he goes to the garage and gets a complete tool bag with levels and tape measures and gyroscopes, etc.
At this point I just pull up a chair because this is gonna be a procedure. Then he measures from the ceiling down and the floor up and from corner to corner of the wall. And then he measures everything again, does a few calculations on his ever handy cell phone calculator, all the while I am eating a sandwich and watching the “show”!
Never mind that when he is flying and not home, and it is time to hang a picture on the wall, I step back and eyeball the wall, grab a hammer and nail and bang! I hang the picture.
But I digress…
We were talking about communication and as you know, we women know how to communicate!
The Captain might ask if I want to go out to dinner tonight.
I respond…”hmmmm, I am not sure, Do you want to go out?”
For me, this should open the dialog for discussing what restaurant, do I have to change clothes, what time should we go if we do go, etc.
But as with most men, he doesn’t want to waste time with a discussion. For him, a simple yes or no is all he needs.
There it is my friends. That gender gap, where women (me) can’t understand why men (him) don’t relate….and men (he) can’t understand why women (me) won’t just say what they mean.
Ok, this has been going on since the beginning of time and most likely won’t change.
I did read that most couples average only 30 minutes a week in actual conversations!
You know…. Not the yes and no responses to questions or instructions, but actual meaningful conversations.
Wow! That long????
I think the last meaningful conversation (that lasted more than 30 minutes) I remember having, was during the political primaries!!
BUT, I am not complaining.
Together, the Captain and I make a heck of a team!!!
Except when I want to get to a potluck before the potato salad and deviled eggs turn sour.
Have a great day!
By the way, there is a wonderful Christian Comedian (Jean Robertson) who is married to the same “type” of man, as I am married to. And if you ever get a chance to see her perform, I encourage you to do so. (Incidentally, I suspect that we are married to the same man)